Melissa Joy dates
The First Date
Girlfriend Experience
Your Personal Concierge
Hungry Adventurer
Dinner Date
Hot Wing Woman
Plus-One for Fun
The Experienced
Platonic Girlfriend Experience
Hello there, curious stranger. You may have stumbled across my photos and snarky comments on social media and wondered, who’s that girl and how can I meet her?
Hello, I'm Melissa! Here’s a bit of my backstory and how I got here: I've been a digital artist for many years working as a photographer and editor. But when I find myself at a cocktail party with a bunch of strangers, what makes me the most interesting person in the room is when I bring up stories from my (no longer secret) other career.
It all started about a decade with a curiosity exploring financially compensated companionship. I started working as a professional GFE (“Girlfriend Experience”) escort, which evolved over time as I grew more confident and stepped into my dominance and power. I stopped seeing escort clients and started a practice as professional dominatrix and an intimacy coach for couples.
While I no longer offered the traditional ‘Girlfriend Experience’, what I missed about being an escort was the nervous excitement of meeting a stranger with first date jitters, breaking the ice over drinks and relaxing over a great meal.
Getting comfortable enough to swap stories and reveal more of our authentic selves until we were no longer strangers. I felt honored to be their trusted confidante to hold their secrets, many things they had never shared with another person. We shared sense of intimacy beyond anything physical. We bonded over experiences.
My version of the Girlfriend Experience
First date energy buzzing with anticipation and curiosity with a whip-smart mature woman who knows what she wants, brings her A-game and has always has a great time. The boundaries of our relationship are well-defined and our dates are platonic. There's no alternative agenda or getting "getting down to business"; it's all pleasure.
Important Questions
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What do you like to do on dates?
Everything from art museum strolls to zen meditation
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When will we have sex?
That's not on the menu.
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When will we have fun?
The whole time!
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How do you take payments and what are your rates?
I’m not in Portland but I want to meet you! Can you come to my city?
I sometimes travel to other cities and I'll pin my upcoming locations on my social media pages or you can sign up for my (infrequent) mailing list. If you want me in your city at a time that works around your schedule, you can book a FMTY (fly me or train me to you.)
Who do you like to spend time with?
I want to share my time with other humans who’re respectful, intelligent, big-hearted and generous. If you can make me laugh, you’ve scored extra points. I connect easier with people who are more shy than aggressive or loud. I have no preferences for looks, height, physical abilities, skin color, nationality, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity or age (adults 21 and over.)
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Are the photos of you current?
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Yes! Most were taken in the last two years. If you click on an image it will tell you when and where the image was taken and a little story about the photo. A few images on the site are from 2019 when I was a shorter-haired brunette.
I'm a numbers guy, give me some stats
They say age is just a number so I’ll give you a few numbers:
A 70s latchkey kid, an 80s punk rock teen, an experienced wise owl with a 25-year photojournalism career.
Height: 5’3”
Weight: 135 pounds
Dress size: 8
Shoe size: 8.5
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Some other facts:
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Hair: Shoulder length, wavy highlighted blond/gray
Eyes: Hazel, often bespectacled in cute librarian glasses
Smoking: never. Recreational drugs: rarely
Sign: Scorpio
Cheese: Chèvre and manchego
Movie genre: Documentaries
Humor: Dad jokes, Monty Python
Books: Memoirs and non-fiction
Authors: David Sedaris, Steve Almond, Jen Sincero
Podcasts: This American Life, The Journal
Politics: Lefty leaning Libertarian (in Portland I'm probably considered a Fascist ; ) I don’t discriminate on opposing viewpoints— I enjoy discussing philosophies, I think this is how we evolve and learn from one another.
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Judge for yourself- view more recent photos of me on Twitter and Instagram and read my ramblings on Substack.
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I'm curious to know more about you. Ready to meet?